Everybody’s goal should be to work smarter, not harder. I’m not just talking about work work, but I’m also talking about the little things in daily life that add up, making things a whole lot harder than they need to be. And so, I’ve compiled 100 examples — including many things I’m guilty of.
Hopefully, this list will have you nodding your head and saying, “Uh-huh, yup, I do that!” or maybe even, “Oh crap, I’m doing that RIGHT NOW!” so you can realize some “mistakes” you’re making. Some of them are easy fixes, like, wearing pants two sizes too small. Just go out and get a new pair of pants which you can actually breathe in! But some of them are long-term unhealthy habits that will take time to break — like stalking your ex on social media!
Here’s your chance to be honest with yourself and recognize some less-than-ideal behaviors you should work on. Make small steps and start actively reversing the behaviors, creating better habits, making for an easier life. Who doesn’t want that?
The “You’re Making It Harder” List
- Waiting until the last minute to complete a task
- Not leaving yourself enough time to get somewhere
- Saying “yes” to too many plans
- Holding in your emotions
- Not letting yourself cry once in a while
- Not keeping a first aid kit handy in your house
- Not having extra rolls of toilet paper at your house
- Staying at a job that makes you miserable
- Wearing pants that are two sizes too small
- Not getting enough sleep
- Not eating breakfast
- Staying in toxic and/or abusive relationships
- Spending too much time on social media
- Spending too much time trying to make yourself seem cool on social media
- Not listening when others speak
- Being closed-minded
- Complaining without taking action
- Hitting “snooze” on the alarm 10 times, and running out of time for anything else in the morning
- Drinking too much on work nights
- Automatically spending all the money you got on your tax refund
- Not asking for help when you need it
- Telling lies (and having to keep up with them)
- Self-sabotaging (in any way)
- Falling prey to imposter syndrome
- Not telling people how you genuinely feel
- Never taking risks
- Comparing yourself to others
- Not trusting yourself
- Having toxic friends
- Dwelling on the negative
- Not having prescriptions set up for automatic refill
- Not treating yourself to something nice once in a while
- Not taking your designated lunch break
- Not taking your allotted vacation time
- Being afraid to say “no”
- Never exercising
- Leaving bills unpaid until the last minute
- Staring at your phone screen too much before bed
- Forgetting to breathe (go take a deep breath right now)
- Punishing yourself for making mistakes
- Forgetting that everyone makes mistakes
- Obsessing over a diet
- Obsessing over your “flaws”
- Letting your credit score drop scarily low
- Not keeping a personal hygiene routine
- Lacking work-life balance
- Not keeping condoms handy
- Not getting STD tested regularly
- Worrying about things you have no control over
- Worrying about things way too far in advance
- Keeping up with bad habits instead of trying to break them
- Taking yourself too seriously
- Holding on to grudges
- Checking your email as soon as you wake up (it can wait til you get to work!)
- Living in denial
- Not going to the doctor when you feel sick
- Not going to scheduled check-ups
- Worrying about other people too much
- Not eating regularly
- Being a “control freak”
- Renting an apartment that’s way over budget
- Developing drug habits
- Being passive aggressive
- Not dressing for the weather
- Never checking your bank account and just praying there’s some money in there
- Not keeping snacks on hand at work
- Taking constructive criticism personally
- Forgetting to practice self care
- Missing medication dosages
- Stalking your ex on social media
- Not deleting your ex’s phone number
- Talking badly about your coworkers at work (you’ll get caught)
- Talking smack about your friends (you’ll get caught)
- Making impulse buys you can’t afford
- Not filling up on gas until you’re running on empty
- Spending a million dollars on coffee everyday when you could make it at home
- Buying a $15 lunch everyday when you could make it at home and pack it
- Having a really messy room
- Not doing your laundry until you’ve run out of underwear
- Waiting for the trash to be overflowing before you take it out
- Not checking train delays or traffic reports before you leave home
- Not cleaning out your cat’s litter box until it reeks
- Not taking your makeup off at night (resulting in future skin problems!)
- Not responding to emails in a timely manner (that inbox is gonna build up!)
- Not asking for what you want
- Not asking for what you need
- Not planning important things far enough in advance
- Putting off buying holiday gifts until the night before
- Not putting your keys back in their normal place
- Not bringing a phone charger with you when you’ll be out for an extended period of time
- Not getting a haircut or trim for a year
- Not deleting unneeded photos and documents on your phone and electronics (gotta free up that space!)
- Letting your dirty dishes pile up until they’re overflowing
- Not asking your neighbors to be quiet when you desperately need quiet time
- Being on your phone while you’re ordering your coffee (or lunch, or whatever)
- Not keeping tampons/pads handy
- Putting too much on your plate
- Believing yourself to be unworthy of love
- Falling asleep on the train and missing your stop
- Not knowing your limits
If you made it this far, get to it! Choose at least one thing from this list that you do, and say goodbye to that behavior right now. Clear, simpler days lie ahead, my friends.
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